WRITING PROMPT FROM Ellen Bass
This is a simple, but powerful exercise from The Courage to Heal:
Write for ten minutes, beginning with the
words I remember. You can write about any aspect
of your experience being "grabbed." When you run out of
things to write, start a new sentence with the
words I remember.
Do the same thing, beginning with the
words I don’t remember. Continue for ten minutes
without stopping, always coming back to
the starting phrase I don’t remember.
Writing can bring up strong feelings, so be gentle with yourself. It's good to be brave, but don't push yourself beyond what you feel able to handle. And when you're done writing, do something soothing or relaxing before you jump back into your responsibilities. Also, it's good to share what you've written with a trusted person. Or, if you're not ready for that, you can read it to your cat or even a plant or a photograph. Sharing can also stir up strong feelings, so take that at your own pace too. Remember, you are in control of your own writing and your own life.
Imagine a dear friend wrote something like this note to you: “Hey, you seemed kind of down last week when we had coffee and just wanted to check in. Is everything okay? No pressure, of course, to share—but know I’m here if you want to talk.”
Write a letter to this dear friend about what happened and how you’re doing, keeping in mind you never have to mail the letter or share it with anyone.
WRITING PROMPT FROM RUTH BEHAR
I love Margaret Atwood’s essay, “Nine Beginnings,” which is a piece she literally constructed from nine different beginnings in response to the question, “Why do you write?” She felt stuck that she couldn’t write a full-length essay on the topic, because she doesn’t like to write about writing, so she joined together her nine beginnings and that became the essay. Brilliant move! Here is a link to Atwood’s essay
For this prompt, I ask that you write an essay or poem in response to this question: “Why do you want to write about your ‘grabbed’ experience?”
Stitch the story together by connecting your different beginnings – they can be nine beginnings, as with Atwood, or fewer or more, as you wish.
What words that have hurt you, or were meant to? List the ones you remember. How do they fit together? Do they represent a time in your life? A relationship? A place? Could any of them start a poem? Or end one?
Imagining you are writing a letter to one other person can be a good way to start sharing an experience, with an immediate feeling of intimacy and safety. Because “grabbed” experiences are universal in the world and history, these prompts also refer to time and space, which may help to frame the experience.
Imagine you are writing to a woman or man living 100 years from now. What do you want her/him to know about your “grabbed” experience?
Imagine you are writing to a suffragette or any other feminist who came before you.
How would you describe your “grabbed” experience to her?
Imagine you are writing about your experience to women or men in other countries.
Imagine you are writing to your younger self, who had the experience, or to your older self, who has healed from it.
Sometimes the best thing a writer can do is manipulate their perspective. While we are dealing with whatever we feel, we might learn something by stepping outside of that egocentric viewpoint.
Whatever your trauma was or is, write about it from the point of view of multiple observers. The person who finds you to be the most annoying person in the world. The codependent friend who wants you to wrap it around you both like a security blanket. The impatient friend who wants you to just get over it. The acquaintance who remains silent even though they can’t shake the feeling that something’s wrong. The secret admirer who can’t find a way into your life.
Then see what happens should you choose to slip back into the resulting stanzas or poems.
This prompt begins with creating a title. Think of a piece of sexist (or potentially sexist) language. It might be a phrase, a catchphrase, a movie title, a name you've been called, or even a piece of negative self-talk that runs silently through your own head. If you're having trouble finding a good one, brainstorm a list of them so you have a bunch of options to choose from.
Put this piece of charged language at the top of your page, and then, write a poem underneath.
You might write a letter addressed to this piece of language. You might recount the story of your encounter(s) with this piece of language. Or, you might get conceptual and write a list of metaphors for how encountering this language makes you feel. You might also make a list of responses or rebuttals.
If you're looking for more online reading on the topic of abusive language and want to feel inspired, The Radical Copyeditor is one of my favorite places on the internet for discussions about language, privilege, and power.
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